So… I am back with another post, a long one. I can hear Gowri and Durga say, 'Finally la'. Haha. Sorry peeps but I had no drive to blog. Not that nothing has been happening in my life. It’s more like too many things have been happening and at the end of the day I just want to sleep.

The couples' night was great fun! For those visual creatures check out my link to my multiply.

It was always double dating with VD now it was triple dating with SS. It was so much of fun with the ladies. Like how Ravi Annae always say, "My gals always know how to have fun and boogie on the dance floor. The boys are boring!" Well, the boys do know how to have fun it’s just that their idea of fun differs entirely from the girls'.

So there we were, the girls, drinking, eating and making merry while the guys looked on and made sure we would not get tipsy. Heh heh.

Dinner was at Cuba Libre that came with an eye-popping bill. Well, it was eye-popping for the guys, especially Vadi and Devan. They were going on and on about how it cost so much and it WAS NOT filling for THEIR stomachs. Haiz. Durga, our men are so Tamilan. They are just never satisfied if they never dip their hands in curry. Haha

The AWW factor is that they agree to do this because they know how we like to fine dine occasionally. Moreover we only burn a hole in our pockets once in a while. Well, I earn it so I choose how I want to spend it in wise manner, evidently.

Anyway dinner was lip smacking. Ooooo I can remember the rum-glazed chicken and the lamb shank yummy. After the ‘stomach-filling’ dinner we walked down to Café Iguana. We had drinks there. Thankfully, we did NOT go for dinner there. The nachos we ordered to munch on came with a dip that seriously looked and tasted like tomato chutney! It was so dry. When we ordered it Sangeetha and I were fantasising about drippy spicy cheese in the end I got chutney that didn’t even taste moderately good.

So the gals had magarita and shots while the guys looked on, again. The rest convinced Devan to try this particular shot which was described as flaming and we all thought it would be literally flaming on the rim as such a drink existed. Alas, when it came it looked so calm. No flames! Haha. The flaming referred to the spicy level and we all know how Devan ‘loves’ spicy stuff. So that was pretty much it for the couples’ night. We will probably go for another one when the next payday comes!


On an entirely different note, I have hit 24. Ya I know it is going to be about 2 months since that happened. It seems to have got into people that I am supposed to get matrimonially hitched NOW. Weirdoes. I hate the fact that the word ‘marriage’ is being casually dropped into many conversations I have especially with those aunts and uncles. Give me a break! Even my parents are not pushing me into it (thank god for that).

I am not ready for that next phase of my life. It’s just so much of work. Getting a house, putting together a dream wedding, making sure both sides of the families are happy, etc, that’s not effortless at all.

The idea just scares me. Sometimes I wonder why people get married and I come up with this:

1) To get no rumours running about oneself when you are out the particular woman or man (you know how Indians like to whisper behind your back when you are spotted with one person frequently with no matrimonial chain around your neck.)

2) To procreate! (Hey eventually it is the sex) of course there is still the premarital sex (having intercourse with the person you are going to get married to) but people have principles and one of them would probably be not to engage in sexual activities before the traditional marriage is over and done with.

If you ask me I cannot think of anything else. If love is a bond that unifies two hearts, what’s marriage? Do not mistake me as someone who is against marriage. I am most definitely not.

To me it's fairly fine to cohabitate with your partner without getting legally or traditionally married (whether you want to have a sexual relationship or not lies totally on one's own perceptions of life).

Obviously I am going to get livid stares if I say this aloud to my family. What is wrong with trying to see how it is to live with the person you want to be with for the rest of your life? What is wrong in trying to find out if you ARE making the right decision? There are people out there who get divorced 1 month into the marriage! Courtship is entirely different from living with each other.

Deviation: It's funny how in our teens, Durga, Muthu, Saran and I would talk about getting away from our families when we were in our 20s and get a flat to live on our own. Yea we built castles in the air, deep down inside we knew it would not happen.

Simple truth is some parents just do want to let go off you no matter what. Well, who knows I might be like that with my own children.

I would not label these parents old-fashioned or conservative. Letting your child get out there and bring back any guy every other day is not open-mindedness. There are parents who want to be hip and cool so as to be friends with their children. Well, draw a line as to how hip you want to be. Do not lose your morals along the way.

Like I mentioned, it's fine to cohabitate. Would I want to live with my partner? Well, that has an entirely different response. I am not going to get bowled over if I hear someone say that they are cohabitating. Just because that does not disturb me does not imply I would not mind doing it.

I have my principles and idea of living life. I try my best to live my life within the restrictions my parents have for me. I have unmistakably bent around these restrictions a bit to get a breath of fresh air, who doesn’t?

If my parents are going to be against cohabitation then I guess I would have to live with it, right? There are SOME restrictions that we can put up with.

Reading back, I have absolutely how I ended up with a post like this. No, I did not start this because I am thinking of moving in with D. Just one of my random thoughts.

Now I am off to mark the compositions that my tutees have written so wonderfully for me.